Be Good and Say No
I tried hypnotherapy recently. I was skeptical not because I don’t believe in the power of my mind but because it was through video chat so I thought the bad connections and “what did you just say?” would detract from the efficacy.
The reason I wanted to try this form of therapy is because I want to change my habits but have been struggling to understand why I am struggling with these habits. Human nature and myself included are very pragmatic. Problems that exist have solutions. The issue is we look at problem solving in a primitive way because we have not outgrown the early evolution that helped us survive.
Cold! Build fire.
Hungry! Consume flavors.
We have survived through adaptation but primarily a system of indicators guiding us to the “right” and “wrong” paths in life.
Very rarely does a delicious flavor mean certain death.
The same problem solving indicators we used to survive and exist during the most early and primitive times have carried over to a time where the emphasis on survival is being redefined. There is an objective and and cultural desire for a good life. What ever that means to the individual.
For many of us the privilege that we hold as being modern humans regardless of social class or race is forgotten. Just existing now in internet-ized mass consumption times have changed people’s understanding of the world… For better or worse.
Clicking a few buttons and having food or something else delivered completely shifts the definition of survival. The desire and expectation was changed from simply command of “survive” to complex command of “survive better” and that creates a significant amount of confusion because the new generation of challenges that we face as a species are shifting towards the mind over the body and our desires are becoming mind based not body based.
The body has some low level machine code controlling its survival. It exists to exist. The mind is the OS and our preferences, characteristics, thoughts and behaviors are the system settings, apps and APIs we use to leverage the capabilities of the system. There’s just one major difference to the trajectory of computer technology and human biological technology. With human bio tech, the hardware always had way more capabilities than the software and the OS did.
Humans today have a higher capacity for meaningful existence than ever before but like with all new technologies, the early adopters are driving the change but the perceived product life cycle is longer at our level of perceiving time. If a change doesn’t happen within less time than our own personal lifetimes we perceive it as a failure in the moment and that makes us impatient and irritable which leads to reactiveness.
I am no different. I expect the vision in my head to unfold as fast as I think of it, whether it has to do with physical or mental. I want to lose weight faster. I want to reach my business goals faster. I want to get to something faster.
That pursuit is reducing the satisfaction half-life and leading to a lot of uncertainty and self doubt. At least that’s how I feel sometimes. So I decided to speak to myself through hypnotherapy. It’s kind of guided meditation meets imagination and the external question of why being asked through the perspective of what do you see.
It was an interesting experiment because this is the first time had a hypnotherapy session without my dad. My father was a certified hypnotherapist for a little and he would do sessions with me so I was exposed to it very early on and hypnotherapy always seemed like a form of magic, primarily because even though I saw the theories and inductions with my own eyes, it was more whimsical to have the belief in the movie representation of it.
Within the first few minutes I had gone with it and spoke very openly and honest to myself. I had very quickly guided myself to the answers I always knew but decided not to acknowledge. Nothing from the session unlocked any deep hidden story or new belief system or even thoughts that I haven’t had before. But it enabled me to speak very clearly to myself. Or at least more direct than I normally am.
What I had left understanding is that I need to be good. Not in the sense of good person / bad person. Be good in the sense that I don’t have the system settings of feeling good. My current system settings are toggled on lack of value for myself and a byproduct of that is my inability to say no more, to my own impulses and to the requests of the external world.
My primitive system settings that were valid before my OS upgrade have remained through the transition. All I need to do is go in and change the settings because there is a difference between the willingness of the intelectual mind and the emotional mind.
We are in a new generation of home-brew hackers of the mind. Not in the sense of implanting chips in our heads but the tools to improve ourselves have become off-the shelf. Some more refined than others. Taking a remote hypnotherapy session or simply reading articles and feeling comfortable to ask yourself “why” is a shift in survival.
I believe that expectations are the driving force in cultural shift. It’s kind of the same thinking that complacency is the reason things don’t change. The simple desire for an upgrade can lead to powerful waves of change and I believe that the world is there now. The more who expect something the more it becomes real.
We are at the early stages of seamless interconnectedness. Each person represents an incompatible OS with incompatible apps that are interacting through a bunch of conversion scripts and I think it’s because there’s an issue with versioning. Our upgrade system happens faster than our interfacing systems. We are for better or worse changing faster than we can perceive. Our beliefs do not align with our capabilities and capacities.
The “simple times” is a real thing. It is not just a creation by a group of disgruntled oldies. We are in a new era. We are in a new arena with new tools, weapons and competitors. New definitions of ancient words. The question that I need to be asking myself daily seems to be when do I change the system settings? When do I embrace the true opportunity and privilege I have been given?
For now all that matters is being good and saying no.